Dealing with Making Mistakes: Advice for the Young Professional Who Wants to Be Good at Everything

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Yesterday I made a mistake, at work, what a way to start a Monday. As someone who is extremely hard on herself, trying to be good at everything, dealing with making mistakes and learning from experience is a significant area of development for me. Starting out as a young professional, my resilience skills were extremely low. I found (and still do find – although I am getting increasingly stronger at this) it hard to bounce back from a bad situation, a mistake, to pick myself up when something goes wrong. Evidently this can have a significant impact on your day and even your week, with the danger of impacting upon delivery.

I have been working on strengthening my resilience skills for the last 18 months, focusing on being action orientated to turn situations around, as opposed to losing myself in the black hole of worry, stress and overthinking. I try to have a wider perspective on situations, considering them in the grand scheme of the world and really nailing down on how severe the impact actually is, rather than than what I think it is. I can see a real difference and a real growth in myself in this area therefore thought it would be appropriate to share some tips.

[Determine the Scale of Your Mistake Before Creating a Plan]

So on Friday afternoon I sent out some information, in the completely wrong format, making the document unreadable and quite frankly, of no use to anyone – not the biggest mistake in the world. However, when your CRO is on the list of recipients, this mistake carries some precedence. With regards to creating a plan, I had a few options; break down and cry [tempting], leave work and never come back [also potentially tempting], recall the email,  personally proceed to every recipient’s desk grovelling at their feet  or simply, fix the problem – resend the information with an accompanying apology that it was not sent correctly the first time.

I could have recalled the email, but that may have taken just as much time and hassle as simply re-sending the information. I could have grovelled at all recipient’s feet, but was the mistake really that severe that merited a personal apology? I didn’t think so. Make sure your resulting actions are appropriate to the severity of the situation.

[Confide in Someone You Trust]

Worrying about something alone is never helpful. Being the world’s biggest extrovert I like and need to externalise my feelings to feel better. Having someone reassure you not only makes you feel better, but provides an objective perspective on the situation.

[Don’t Panic]

This one is important. We all make mistakes, we cannot be [no matter how hard some of us try] perfect, things can and do go wrong.  A leader is someone than remains calm under pressure, maintaining credibility and reliability, even when the proverbial shit hits the fan. Better decisions will be made when emotion is removed and problems looked at objectively, removing the potential for knee jerk reactions and rash decisioning. Take time to process what has happened, consider your options carefully and proceed to mitigate. If it has been a significant mistake that does have severe impact  upon someone or something, it can be incredibly hard to stay calm but what is key to remember is that what has happened, has happened and you cannot change that, however you may be able to  better the situation and the more calmly you can do so the better.

[Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice]

An oldie but a goodie. Don’t make the same mistake twice.
“Any man can make mistakes, but only an idiot persists in his error”
Learn from experience, every day is a learning day and If you treat your mistakes as lessons – you will improve time and time again.

[Have Perspective]

Again, this can be hard, especially when we hold such pride in our work, our personal brands and our reputations. However, one must have perspective, will it bring your organisation to its knees? Most likely not, are you going to lose your job? Probably not. Will the world end? Most definitely not.

Will you potentially have to apologise for slipping up, being negligent or not paying enough attention? Potentially, but that’s OK – for the most part, people are kind – and they are empathetic, they will know what it feels like and as long as your apology is genuine – I can guarantee they will accept it.

JK Rowling on perspective after experiencing significant failure
[or what society would deem to call failure] at an early stage in her life;
‘My greatest fear had been realised, yet I was still alive’ 
Watch her Ted Talk on the Benefits of Failure and Making Mistakes here

Be Resilient | Be Strong

Be #AllergictoAverage

Work Hard [Play Hard]

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Work Hard [Play Hard] – The Yacht Week

Looking for a relaxing week away from the office? Refreshing, rejuvenating and relaxing oneself? Don’t come to The Yacht Week.

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Described by Forbes as a ‘seven-day party in the Mediterranean for twentysomethings of a certain inclination and income’ it certainly lives up to its tagline #nothingliketherealworld

Still recovering from those infamous holiday blues [and one horrendous hangover] I can honestly say it was one of the best weeks of my life.

[Don’t believe me, just Yacht]

Crystal clear seas, marble promenades and a variety of beautiful, historical architecture; it’s Croatia.

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Docking at a different location most days, sailing in perfect conditions with the sun beating down – what more could you want?
[oh] one hell of a party.

At what feels like the most exclusive festival in the world, hands raised in the air [along with more than a few Go-Pros], as the DJ plays and the trees sway, whilst being showered in champagne; it’s a dream. It’s everything I hoped for – and more.

The location of these parties? Amfora Hvar Grand Beach Resort for the Ultra Pool Party [akin to those in Vegas], Carpe Diem Beach Lounge [on a private island], a Fort built in 1813 [by the British] and my personal favourite, natural bays in the Adriatic Sea.

Parking up – [or rafting up] – as I was quickly informed by our skipper! An iconic part of The Yacht Week.

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Lounging on a inflatable bed; if you’re lucky enough not to get yours pinched [more than a few times I had to gracefully (!?) straddle an inflatable shark/lobster/turtle/llama – yes there really was an inflatable llama] floating within the borders of 77 yachts tied together, it’s a sure fire way to meet people that’s for sure.

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[It’s more than a holiday. As a networking event, it’s unbeatable.]
Julian Brockburst, Skipper.

[Knot so Freakin’ Fast]

If you’re the average of the people you spend the most time with, then wow – I’ve came away from The Yacht Week helluva successful.

Seriously though, spending 7 days on our Yacht – Knot So Fast – with my amazing crew, that existed of young professionals working and managing businesses in property, investment banking, manufacturing, sales and tech from locations around the world. I’ve came away seriously inspired.

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Most people I met on The Yacht Week were in Financial Services and whilst not overtly networking, there’s nothing better than getting some advice from the more experienced. There was a significant entrepreneurial spirit running throughout also, complimenting someone’s sunglasses and finding out they were created by a fellow Yacht Weeker; who’s Dicks Cotton brand originally took inspiration from the #nothingliketherealworld mentality; ‘Be Happy, Live Comfortably’.

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This entrepreneurial spirit is inherent to The Yacht Week, considering it’s history. Two young entrepreneurs William Wenkel and Erik Biörklun, swedes who originally came up with the idea whilst skippering for European families in 2005 had a vision, a vision for the young and beautiful, behaving badly in a paradise of the Mediterranean sun. I’d be pretty confident in saying they created that.

Exchanging my Yacht Week alarm – which consisted of resident DJ MaxNyman from Stockholm [that just happens to be a yachter on the yacht parked beside you at the marina] with that horrendous iPhone ring, you know the one, contrary to belief, I went back to work happy and ready to go. Ready to nail it. Met with ghastly, shocked faces when I replied to ‘God, you must be depressed to be home’ with the admittance that in fact I was actually pretty happy to be there.

The Yacht Week is testament to that – it’s working hard [and playing harder]. It’s taking a break. It’s your mind being consumed with crystal clear seas, dolphin spotting – not email or KPIs. It’s knowing that even bound by limited annual leave you can travel the world. It’s meeting widely successful young professionals. It’s feeling inspired. It’s appreciating the opportunity to meet the like-minded and knowing with grit and determination you can achieve. It’s being creatively stimulated. It’s  perspective and it’s the building of memories, because let’s be honest in addition to all those champagne bottles, those are the things that make us truly and wholeheartedly ‘rich’.

When’s Round 2?

Work Hard | Play Hard

Be #AllergictoAverage

Top 5 [Sexy] Stationary Picks

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One thing I absolutely love is Sexy stationary.

I love having stationary that people notice, whether that’s when it’s sitting on your desk or in a meeting. It’s another excuse to show off your personality.

I started Monday right by putting to use my new notebook I got at the weekend. From someone who sees a One Way Street as ‘just a rule’ that you can obey when you like as opposed to an actual law, I feel this quote was made for me….whoops.
I’m sure my passengers will vouch for this.

Seriously though – where’s all the fun in following the rules? Some of life’s greatest inventions and greatest entrepreneurs were established by bending and breaking rules. Disruption is a very powerful thing.

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My Top 5 Sexy Stationary Picks

1. The Filofax

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Everyone needs a Filofax in their life: seriously, you are missing out if you don’t own one. I don’t know how I would keep my life in order without it.

This little red number is fashionable and chic and bright enough to prompt you to remember to always put it in your handbag. A diary, separate sections for notes, figures, doodles and ideas, an address book and places to write your to-do’s – what more do you need!?

If I had a £ for everytime someone said to me ‘you do know you have all that on your iPhone…’ I’d be a millionaire. I like paper and pen; leave me alone.

2. You Can’t Stop the Beat [The Doodle] Pen

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This little pen is cute as can be. You’ll always know it’s yours (no more pesky pen pinchers!) and plus – it’s been said doodling improves concentration – so Doodle away to your heart’s content; guilt free.

3. The Motivating Notebook

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This notebook is brilliant for the entrepreneurs and intrapreneurs among us. [What’s an intrapreneur] you say? It’s someone who acts entrepreneurially within a large organisation; someone who explores ideas, challenges the norm and takes risks. Many famous entrepreneurs have said how they have kept a notebook by their bedside to ‘mind-dump’ any ideas they come up with during the night. With Half lined/Half blank pages this notebook is perfect for exploring your creativity – day or night.

4. The Forceful Post It

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Need a bit of a kick up the ar*se? Use these post-its. Self explanatory really.

5. The Procrastination Fighter | The Mind Dump

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This A5 pad is what I need on a day where I feel overwhelmed with every thing I have to do – there’s never enough hours in the day, never enough days in the week. This A5 helps separate what is really important and helps prioritise; helping you take a more strategic approach to firing through that to-do list.

Also – the satisfaction of ripping the page out the pad when you’ve completed all those to-do’s is as wonderful as the feeling of whipping your bra off at the end of day.

Be Prepared | Embrace the Day

Be #AllergictoAverage

Break the Rules Notebook | £8 | Paperchase:
http://www.paperchase.co.uk/stationery/notebooks/a5-obey-wiro-notebook.html

The Filofax | £30 | Paperchase:
http://www.paperchase.co.uk/stationery/diaries-organisers/filofax/patent-red-pocket.html

Can’t Stop the Doodle Pen | £9.95 | Happy Jackson
http://www.nottheusual.co.uk/happy-jackson-cant-stop-the-doodle-pen/

Great Ideas Notebook | £9.95 | Happy Jackson
http://www.nottheusual.co.uk/happy-jackson-a5-notebook-great-ideas/

Get Shit Done Post Its | £3.50 | Ohh Deer
http://ohhdeer.com/stationery/post-it-notes/let-s-get-shit-done-post-it-notes

Stop Procrastinating Pad | £4.95 | Ohh Deer
http://ohhdeer.com/stationery/notebooks/stop-procrastinating-notepad